On St. Valentine’s Day, Woo Your Lover With
Leadership expert Brent Filson asserts that wooing one’s loved one can be done with a special kind of communication methodology which he has been teaching leaders worldwide for 21 years.
By Brent Filson - 2005
On Valentine’s Day, lovers should not only woo their sweethearts with chocolates and roses -- but also a Leadership Talk.
My experience in teaching the Leadership Talk to thousands of
leaders worldwide for the past 21 years confirms that the Talk is a
boon for leaders of all ranks and functions in their jobs and careers.
But I’ve also learned, to my surprise, that many leaders are
employing the Leadership Talk effectively outside their jobs in their
personal relationships.
Giving Leadership Talks helps leaders get a lot more results
in organizations. Leaders see how much more effective as motivational
tools Leadership Talks are than speeches and presentations.
Speeches and presentations communicate information. But
Leadership Talks have you establish a deep, human, emotional connection
with your audience. That human connection is important in getting
great results in your job; but it is also important in getting great
results in your personal life -- even your love life.
If you want to win or sustain the affections of a loved one, a Leadership Talk may just make it happen.
At first glance, it may seem that my mixing leadership and love
is like mixing apples and oranges. But great leadership and love share
common elements. For one thing, when you are wooing your lover, you
may be taking the lead. And for another, using a Leadership Talk,
you’re fostering a into a deep, heartfelt relationship -- as great
leadership often does.”
Here’re a few pointers on giving a Leadership Talk that you
can put into effect this Valentine’s Day or any other day for love.
Before you speak, simply ask three questions: Do you know the needs of
your lover? Can you bring deep belief to the relationship? And can
you have your lover take action? If you say ‘no’ to any one of those
questions, you can’t give a Leadership Talk.
The questions apply to lovers as well. To foster a deep, human
emotional relationship, you must know what your sweetheart needs, the
deep belief you bring to the relationship, and finally, the action you
want your sweetheart to take.
However, the questions are not meant to be stumbling blocks to
your Leadership Talk but stepping stones. If you answer ‘no’, step
back and assess your situation. Think through what you might say so
that you can ‘yes’ to each question. Then speak. Give a Leadership
Talk. And, by the way, don’t forget the chocolates and roses.
2005© The Filson Leadership Group, Inc. All rights reserved.
The author of 23 books, Brent Filson's recent books are, THE LEADERSHIP TALK: THE GREATEST LEADERSHIP TOOL and 101 WAYS TO GIVE GREAT LEADERSHIP TALKS. He is founder and president of The Filson Leadership Group, Inc. – Celebrating 25 years of helping leaders of top companies worldwide achieve outstanding results every day. Sign up for his free leadership e-zine and get his FREE report "7 Steps To Leadership Mastery"
